What's Keeping You From Promoting Your Business Online (it may have something to do with your sister)

“I used to be told I was too much because I dressed nice, and spoke well... for awhile (and even not too recently) I would always try and not be too dressed up and would be super casual.” Christian (one of my lovely students)

Congratulations! You're the new star of your business. And let me tell you…you've got it all: knowledge, charm, personality. And guess what? People need to see that if so they know if you’re a good fit.

 But why then do you feel so much resistance to being seen?

That quote above…this is not the first time I hear this story with my students. 

If you are someone who shines very brightly and is deeply passionate about things (like me), then you might feel like there are times when you don’t know how bright your light needs to shine or how much of yourself needs to come out in order for people around you to see it. 

You may even wonder if it would hurt your cause more than help, if everyone knows all the treasures inside of you: would it be a turn off? 

Growing up (especially if you have siblings) you may have heard things such as: 

• Stop bragging, don’t make your sister feel bad
• It’s not polite to be so opinionated 
• Yes, we already know you KNOW...let others have their chance
• You may be over dressed...wear something else

In other words...

• Your accomplishments make others feel less
• Your opinions should not be shared
• Nobody likes a know it all
• Dress to blend in...you don’t want to stand out. 

Why do these stories become so deep rooted inside of us?

My guess is because they usually get started by people that love us! 

They don't do it on purpose of course.

The problem is they breed the perfect scenario for INVISIBILITY. Then we wonder, "why is it so hard to get on camera and promote my business."🤔

WELL...HELLO visibility vampires!🧛

Try this:

1. Sit down and journal everything that scares you about being more visible in the world. Write until you hav nothing left to say on that piece of paper.
2. Then circle 3 things that stand out the most.
3. Of those 3 things...are you secretly afraid of loosing love, being kicked out of the tribe or loosing everything?
4. Now that you have than answer ask yourself, is it really true?
5. What if you DID videos, posts and even ads? What would be the worst case scenario? Follow that question until there's nothing left to say. 

Usually at the end of that brain dump there's the inevitable "....and then I die".

But is that true? Will you really die if you start using videos and posting more to social media?

We have to stop dimming our light for others.  Like Christian said, “They just need to buy some damn sun glasses!”

If we play small others play small too. If we start being who we really are others get the vibe and allow themselves to start being who they really are too ❤️